Being Real

Not being real confirms shame, that your real self is not important or valuable.
Not being real keeps you from being able to grieve and heal from telling your story
Not being real gets you into situations that you really can’t handle, then you act out
Not being real confirms the lifestyle of lies, makes it easier to compromise bigger things when you are used to hiding smaller things.

Ephesians 4:25
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.

QUESTION IS, HOW CAN WE BE REAL?

Often, as addicts, we have lived a life hiding behind masks, a life full of alibis and lies.

Here is a rule of thumb that can help you to be real:

With those who are close to you:

Your deep feelings (past and present)
Your fears (past and present)
Your hurts (past and present)
Your failures (past and present)
Your dreams, hopes, desires, joys (past and present)
What you need
What you want
What you don’t want
What you don’t think you can handle
Saying no when you have a choice

With those you don’t know well

What you need
What you want.
What you don’t want
What you don’t think you can handle
Saying no when you have a choice
General information about your feelings (follow by “I don’t want to talk more about it”)

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